“Be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and stars; you have a right to be here. In the noisy confusion of life, keep peace with your soul.” – Author Unknown
Being gentle with ourselves means giving ourselves permission not to be the best that’s humanly possible, but rather to do the best we can right now. It’s impossible to be “perfect”, so being the greatest person alive is a goal that’s sadly unachievable.
As most of you may have noticed, I have not posted in 3 days when my goal was to post every day. I was beating myself up every hour that passed that I did not post something. I was NOT being gentle with myself in the slightest. That is, until a dear friend of mine reminded me that it’s okay to take it easy and be kind to yourself. So, that is why today’s topic is being gentle with yourself and giving yourself time to heal.
You may ask, well how can I be more gentle with myself? How can I give myself room to heal? It’s a question I ask every day! I’ve learned there are 8 ways you can be more gentle with yourself.
1. Consider your mistakes as part of a learning process
2. Don’t compare yourself to others
3. Be loyal to your values, even if it means being unpopular
4. See the past as an adventure
5. Don’t underestimate your talents
6. Surround yourself with people that inspire you
7. Express your anger creatively
8. Celebrate every success
Being gentle with yourself is imperative in finding peace and joy in your life. It’s beneficial for you to make room for mistakes. As Bob Ross once said, “We don’t make mistakes, just happy little accidents”. I think what he says is a nice way of looking at our “mishaps”. To be kind to yourself is just as important as being kind to others. I’ve learned the hard way about being harsh on myself when I do something wrong.
Not being kind to yourself can even cause physical stress on your body. According to the National Institute of Mental Health , stress in your life, even caused by being hard on yourself, can cause physical ailments. “Health problems can occur if the stress response goes on for too long or becomes chronic, such as when the source of stress is constant, or if the response continues after the danger has subsided. With chronic stress, those same life-saving responses in your body can suppress immune, digestive, sleep, and reproductive systems, which may cause them to stop working normally.” – NIMH
In conclusion, being considerate of your own feelings and lenient towards “happy little accidents” can prove to be valuable to your health. Remember, you are NOT alone. You can always reach out to someone you can trust or myself if you can’t seem to be kind to yourself. You are special and cared about. If you ever need a reminder, look back on this post and recite the 8 steps to being more gentle with yourself. May God bless you all.